What is nagging?

Persistent fault finding.

Everything that annoys you is not nagging. Maybe you're annoyed because you choose to be annoyed. Does it bother you? yes. Does it bother me? Yes, even more so.

Is Questioning and Nagging the same thing?
No. Which questions do you feel are nagging? The one's that make you uncomfortable. Maybe attacking the questioner (Q) isn't the best way to react. Consider that the question may just have been an honest innocent question.

Attacking Q causes only damage... to you and him. Attack may back him off... but leave him wounded. And is your discomfort cured by doing that? No it isnt.

How do you want Q to react?

Will you be happy if Q also launches an assault? No. that will lead to more discomfort, more stress, negativity.

Would you rather have Q break down and become upset since you attacked? Does that make you happy? No. Do you think that Q is pretending to be sad and upset to calm you down? And to do damage control for he has been exposed? Do you fall for all that? No. Is Q not intelligent enough to know you won't fall for that? Ofcourse he is. So does he still use those tactics? No.

If Q is not asking questions, and trying to overcome the sadness and not asking uncomfortable questions, is he just hiding his real self so that he can control you and then launch an attack again? No. Q wants peace. He wouldn't bother scheming that much. Firing uncomfortable questions is easier.
Does he still have questions in him? yes. why is he not asking them? Because the attacks you launch make it tough for both of you,

What do you do if Q is not asking uncomfortable questions?

Does Q entire being circle around making you uncomfortable? No. Do you be nice to Q and appreciate him, or do you wonder where the uncomfortable questions are? If you wonder, are you happy they aren't there? If you are not, why? What would make you happy? Tell Q, he'll do that.

If you are, would you look around and try to bring up the questions again? Will you dig deep until you find the questions? and if you don't see them will you att Q again? why?

Q wants to be happy. Q wants you to be happy. Q wants to be happy with you.

Q can either ask questions or not ask questions. Q doesn't mean any harm.


I've tried so hard my dear to show
That you're my every dream
Yet you're afraid each thing I do
Is just some evil scheme...

...In anger unkind words are said
That make the teardrops start
Why can't I free your doubtful mind
And melt your cold cold heart

Love,
Q

P.S. began my swimming lessons today, and I was pretty good. I can float and let go of the poles for a couple of seconds :) Girlfriends around are supportive. Another week and I'd be ready to hit the waves! (yeah right!! :D)

Don't really care enough to love it or hate it.

The love all around is pleasant, but the bright reds and pinks and all the overdone PDA hurts my eyes.

Depends on who we're talking about. There are people who don't act like adults at 30+. So legal is the only way we can define it if we have to assign a boundary

I've recently taken to listening to jazz.. And i feel i've been missing out on something for long by not discovering this before. Even if there are no lyrics, it feels that someone out there understands just what i am thinking. Norah Jones is precious. Here's how I feel right now.

I tried so hard my dear to show that you're my every dream 
Yet you're afraid each thing I do is just some evil scheme 
A memory from your lonesome past keeps us so far apart 
Why can't I free your doubtful mind and melt your cold cold heart 

Another love before my time made your heart sad and blue 
And so my heart is paying now for things I didn't do 
In anger unkind words are said that make the teardrops start 
Why can't I free your doubtful mind,and melt your cold cold heart 

There was a time when I believed that you belonged to me 
And now I know your heart is shackled to a memory 
The more I learn to care for you, the more we drift apart 
Why can't I free your doubtful mind and melt your cold cold heart
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I'm trying to keep the faith.
Love,
Nidhi

Lonestar where are you out tonight? 
This feeling I'm trying to fight 
It's dark and I think that I would give anything 
For yout o shine down on me 

How far you are I just don't know 
The distance I'm willing to go 
I pick up a stone that I cast to the sky 
Hoping for some kind of sign 

If it's a friend..
"Uhhmmmm okaaaaayyyyy? Is everything fine?"

If it's the boss...
(Has the recession finally hit me?)

If it's someone who thinks he's a friend..
(Oh god noooo!!! I do not want to be the agony aunt!!!!)
"Uhhmmmm okaaaaayyyyy? Is everything fine?" :D

If it's the landlord..
(Shit, the rent's shooting up again)

If it's the roommate...
(What did we break now?!!)

If it's a colleague...
(ooooh... juicy piece of gossip coming up!)

And so on...  Adios!

January 13, 2009

Taurus: It's not possible to be friends with everyone, so why even try? Today, you should stop wasting all of your energy trying to charm someone who just doesn't seem to get where you are coming from. Instead, put your energy toward the people who deserve your time -- the people who laugh at your jokes, applaud your successes, and are always there when you need them. Winning someone over might make your ego feel good for a minute or so, but it's a hollow victory.

I really wanted to write this somewhere. I dont think this is my fortune for the day, but i sure agree with this.
 

““When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.””

Paulo Coelho quotes (Mystical author, one of Brazil's most successful novelist)

[And I'm beginning to believe in that :)]

Love,

Devil's own

Mogambo khush huaaaaaaaa!!!!

Marilyn Manson - “My only definition of romance is that somebody has to be willing to hold hands and jump off the cliff with you. At that point, you don't want to die any more.”

mwah!

Devil's own

psst! I forgot to mention...I got my first hike btw!!! yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!

After a long time I spent a lazy quiet weekend by myself... My roomies were all away doing their chores/walking around/slogging at work... and I finally got out of my bed.. First I thought I'd go out shopping or something since I had time.. but then I thought.. I'll do something I haven't done in a long time.. Do nothing at all. So I played my eagles cd, slipped into my bed with a Danielle Steele with a cup of green tea that I made myself. Danielle Steele.. and not Clear light of Day by Anita Desai that has been pending for quite some time since I just needed to relax.. not think.. not worry about world peace and dark horrors that so many people of the world and face and not feel guilty about being comfortable.. Whew.. just Breathe.. So I did.



Life is going by pretty fast.. whooosh!! Diwali's around the corner again and I didn't even notice. it has been one whole year! But I am happy.. I don't like having to count days and weeks and months.. If I had to do this same quiet-evening-to-myself bit an year back.. I would have been sad.. I would have missed people... I would have missed a lot of things I don't have.. But not anymore. I am not saying I am totally satisfied and I have everything I want.. I want so many things more.. but for once I am at peace with myself.. at peace with who I am and where I am.. at peace with what I have..

After a bit my roomies started coming back home and I set out in search of my new Mp3... needless to mention.. I bought some more than I thought I would and came back home with dvds of friends.. the complete season... eleven other movie dvds and three mp3s! hmmm!!! quite a collection that is though! :)
Watched Evil Dead with roomies at night.. Screamed out brains out.. and then slept with the lights on! heheh!

Life's better than it has ever been and Life is beautiful (despite its shortcomings)..

Mmmmmuuuuaaah!


P.S. Love you Rainmaker!!!

Bloody morons!!! I can help being amused with the level of stupidity displayed by the people here!
So... you tell me.. what do you understand by the term "Nemesis"? Whatever it is... it shure possibl will not be... "uhhmmm... weelll... nemesis is probably some kind of a disease".
d-uh!!!! Dumbaasssses!!!!!

For all you those ignoramuses who think Nemesis means a disease or a dish or a form of algae..(No offence).. get a grip! I sure hope people i'm referring to come across this page! Grrrr!



nem·e·sis      /ˈnɛməsɪs/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[nem-uh-sis] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation

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ankhein band kar lu jo main
dekhu bas tumhe
khwabon mein hi keh sakta hun apna tumhe
rehne de mera ye wahem pe hi yakin
na ja abhi
pyar ki yeh raat hai ab na ja
choti si ik baat hai ab na ja
tumhi se hai meri neendein, na bhi ho to kya
tumhi se hai meri baatein, na bhi ho to kya
kehne de taaron ko kahaani ankahi
na ja abhi
pyar ki yeh raat hai ab na ja
choti si ik baat hai ab na ja

pal do pal ka saath hai ab na ja
jadoo si ye raat hai ab na ja
ab na ja

maathey pe pyaar ki boondein
bikhrey se kai sawaal
aankhon mein kitne mausam, pal mein beetein kitne saal
rehne de jahan bhi le jayen zindagi
na ja abhi

pyar ki yeh raat hai ab na ja
choti si ik baat hai ab na ja
pal do pal ka saath hai
ab na ja

...she desires security. ultimately she wants to be with the man she desires. she wants emotional anchoring. in her life she has always been the one to love more. but she desires to be loved more than she loves...

i just noticed... in none of my posts is my mood happy or cheery or nostalgic or nethin like that!!! aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh! god knws when that post will come!

LIFE SUCKS!!!


BIG TIME!!!


it's at it's bitchiest best now! so wht next god? i can't think now!

it is important that ppl say sorry... yes.. ppl close to each other too. it shows that you are concerned... it doesnt cost anything to say sorry... atleast sometimes u shunt just assume everything's fine... sorry does make a difference

I am always surprised when supposedly respectable men, at an age when they're supposed to be worried sick about their children's future/careers/marriage go around making passes at girls less than half their age. They follow them around, trouble and embarass them notwithstanding their greying hair, wives at home and kids who aren't even kids anymore. If questioned, they pretty easily get off the hook by pretending their intentions were totally misunderstood, and that they were only trying to help/advise... and that how in the world could such an outrageous remark be made about them - afterall, the girl/s are kids and just like their own daughters! This whole scenario draws out an immense amount of disgust from within me!

It is of course uncomfortable and disturbing enough when loafers and hooligans make trouble for women.. but at least it is more or less what is expected out of these people. They can be shooed away, they can be slapped, help can be called for. But in the other scenario, there isn't much that can be done. They can much easily dodge any aquisitions.No matter what, they've lived long enough to know the world better than college going bums, and also have much less confusion and fear about everything. This makes it easier for them to carry on, and tougher to make them stop. I do agree that their is a considerably low percentage of men who do these things as compared to young guys (at least that is how i see it), but these are the same people who go around criticising and blabbering how difficult and irresponsible the younger generation is.

I've seen it a whole lotta times - these men chasing girls... actually even experienced it myself.. thank goodness it has been limited to them driving ahead, maintaining their pace and adjusting their rear-view mirrors - or maybe following you for a while... and that was bad enough... but i've been lucky. I pity their wives and families at home who are proud of these men, and totally unaware of things they are upto. Maybe some wives are even aware - I pity them even more, because they are not even going to give a thought to rebel/go agaisnt/leave their husbands. Can't even blame them for that though. They've been raised in a way and believed that they are totally dependant on men. This also reminds me of a quote by Helen Rowland in her book 'Reflections of a Bachelor girl':

"When you see what some girls marry, you realise how they must hate to work for a living"

I do agree - a lot of women depend on men not because they have no other choice, but, because it is much more convenient this way, than to go out in the big bad world and work themselves. Here they're protected and have the things they need served in a platter - so what fi their husbands are totally detestable, haven't matured a bit or learnt anything from their lives even after five decades of life. And this is not about the flashy rich men, got nothing to do with it... even their counterparts behave in this manner... maybe more than the former - because they have social circles and are virtually living their lives in the way they would like others to see.

Time is the greatest teacher they say... any greater teachers around?

After much psychotherapy with my philosopher i've decided tact is more important than politeness, and that i'm not going to take anymore shit from jerks around the world!
I'll kick you.. sandwiched in lots of love :D if ya try to run my life and you won't even know!
buzz off!